My daughter excitedly opened her piggy bank and counted all the coins and bills she saved for the past year. She saved up quite a sum and hurriedly asked me for a trip to her favorite knick-knacks store. In the past years, I wouldn’t have allowed such frivolous spending. I would show my children their savings passbook and tell them the value of adding more to it. They would be extremely disappointed and confused but I thought I was doing them a service by teaching them how to save.
Over the past few years though I have learned that parents need to hand children control over their savings. This will make them savor the fruits of their savings better and they would learn how to budget it. Ironically, by handing them control over their spending they learn the value of saving more.
When my daughter and I took a trip to her favorite knick-knack stores, she diligently chose what to buy, carefully minding that she does not over spend because she wants the freedom of having extra money to buy things I wouldn’t spend on for her. It put a smile to my face as she computed the value of the stuff and at the cash counter started removing some other stuff she thought she could do away with.
Now, she still has leftover money from her piggy bank savings and has drawn up a budget list for her CHRISTmas giveaways for the whole family.
Letting go is really letting grow.
P.S. My kids get a mall allowance whenever we go out, this tempers the buy me that, buy me this, and teaches them to choose wisely, read more about it here – Mall Allowance.
Life changing quote. I encountered it on the bulletin board in my daughter’s school. It struck me when I first read it, like love at first sight. It lingered in my mind. I entertained it. I pondered on it. And finally, I accepted its grace.
It is so true and it is so powerful.
It has made me more tolerant and forgiving of myself and the people around me. True, I may have shouted and lost it with the kids a minute ago, but the quote brings me back to what is important as I breathe out the past, apologize and start anew. True, I may have eaten a meal to rival a 7 footer football player’s appetite but I can stop at one bite of dessert and say, “oops, you slipped, stop” and just like that I feel lighter not remorseful.
When my daughter came home weeks back, very scared, with a not desirable grade (I can be a tiger!), I felt angry and sad, but I told my daughter, “Ok that was not a good grade but you didn’t put effort in it. Grade = effort. But that is the past, what is important is what we do about it.” My daughter’s face lighted up and slowly but surely she is working teeny-weeny harder to beat her personal best.
My friend, Candice, noticed the quote at work. She said there is something different in me which she can’t put a finger at.
Even my toddler noticed it. He accidentally spilled his milk, looked at me with fright in his eyes, as I exclaimed “It’s ok that was an accident. It’s done. Let’s clean up. Be careful next time.” Ok it may sound like a scene from Pleasantville, and it does look surreal, even to me, but yes, I am capable of forgiveness haha:-) My boy in full, confused awe said, “Wooow! you’re not mad.”
I still do get mad and snap at times, uhhh just like yesterday, but I bounce back to the direction I want to move.
Even to my helpers or our workers at the office, if they make a mistake, I just point out the mistake and tell them not to repeat it again, tell them the right thing to do and I end by saying “that’s what is important.” It removes the ill feelings of being corrected/reprimanded, somehow.
It is amazing how the quote has opened up a new dimension of positivity, kindness and hope in me.
Let it linger in your mind. Entertain it. Ponder on it. And, finally, accept its grace.
Have a Blessed Week Ahead,
“It’s the most wonderful time of the year!” My family’s most awaited season is just around the corner. I can already feel the crisp, cool air. And, the excitement of good things CHRISTmas brings puts everyone in a happy mood.
One of our family’s tradition is putting up our CHRISTmas tree as a family. It’s a big occasion for all of us. A date is set, usually right after Halloween, and the menu for the night, extra special. Carefully selected CHRISTmas songs are blaring and everyone in the family is just gathered around our living room helping out decorate the tree – kids and I set up the tree, husband installs the lights and everybody puts all the joyful trimmings. In some sort of revelry, my kids and I would occasionally burst dancing to the merry CHRISTmas tunes. Happiness!
Coca-Cola ups the CHRISTmas festivity by introducing an ingenious DIY bonding activity – the Coca-Cola Parol! The Coca-Cola Parol is part of COCA-COLA® Sari-Saring Happiness campaign.
Aliw super! I’m excited because I know the kids will love it! It’s an easy and fun DIY plus it makes use of recycled material. I plan to give each child a star of his own so they can decorate their own stars together.
Check out this fun video for COCA-COLA® Parol idea inspirations and a quick how to:
Use this for an easy guide to make your COCA-COLA® Parol:
COCA-COLA® Sari-Saring Happiness is lighting different areas in the country. There are lighting hubs around the country, specifically in Manila, Tacloban, Pampanga, Batangas, Bacolod, and Davao. Make sure to take a photo or a video of it and/or your parol and share it on your social media accounts to spread the joy of #SariSaringHappiness Day.
After all, what is CHRISTmas but the biggest and grandest time of the year to share joy and love. As they say, sharing doubles the joy!
Share your #SariSaringHappiness Day moments!
Disclosure: Thanks to COCA-COLA® Sari-Saring Happiness for sponsoring this post and for creating this wonderful and ingenious campaign!